How to Change

You’ll learn: Four ways to adapt to change (the only guarantee in life!)

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During the pandemic, it was common to hear people talk about wanting to “get back to normal.”

That didn’t happen. Because here’s the thing: Once you go through a change, you’re never the same. This is the rule for both big and small changes.

But here’s the good news: If you play your cards right, you can come out the other side of change a better, higher-performing person.

That, to me, is a tenet of mental toughness and self-reliance. Can you not only roll with change, but use its kinetic energy to your advantage?

Which leads me to today’s guest post. Brad Stulberg is like a master poker player who teaches people to play the right cards.

Brad writes and coaches on health, well-being, and sustainable excellence. He’s the author of the new book Master of Change. It’s both a timeless and timely read.

We’re in a massive period of change. “There’re geopolitical changes, there are changes in work and technology, and we live in a world of distraction and non-stop candy from all the candy dispensers in all areas of our lives. It can feel like there’s more chaos and more frenetic, frantic energy in life than there really is,” Brad told me.

Brad was kind enough to share a few big ideas from Master of Change on 2%. In a world filled with people trying to sell you the next hack, you can trust Brad.

I highly recommend Master of Change to anyone who may encounter a change in the future. That is to say, you.

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Here’s Brad.

1. Think: Order, Disorder, Reorder

In short

Change is neutral. It becomes negative or positive based on how you view it—and, more importantly, what you do with it.

The details

The average person undergoes more than 30 significant life changes.

Marriage. Divorce. Having kids. Starting school. Graduating. Moving towns. Becoming sick. Recovering from illness. Starting jobs. Leaving jobs. Promotions. The list goes on and on.

Our models for navigating change are old and outdated. Old models represent changes as a cycle of order, disorder, order—like we’ll eventually get everything back to “normal.”

But this is neither accurate nor how life actually works. Fighting to get things “back to normal” is a waste of energy. More importantly, it leaves progress on the table.

A better and more accurate way to view change is seeing it as a continuous cycle of order, disorder, reorder. It’s up to you to do the reordering.

The latest findings from psychology, biology, sociology, philosophy, and neuroscience all demonstrate that change itself is neutral. It becomes negative or positive based on how you view it—and more importantly, what you do with it.

Know that change may shape you—but you can also shape it.

2. Develop Rugged Flexibility

In short

Developing the quality of rugged flexibility will help you navigate change and thrive during it.

The details

Happy, healthy, and sustainably performing individuals maintain strong and enduring identities by repeatedly remaking themselves.

They enter into the river of change and arrive at an enhanced sense of self and stability somewhere new.

They’re not so rugged that they never change. They’re also not so flexible that they passively surrender to the whims of life.

They marry these two qualities and practice a mindset and a way of living called rugged flexibility.

To be rugged is to be tough, determined, and durable.

To be flexible is to consciously respond to altered circumstances and conditions, to adapt and bend easily without breaking.

Rugged flexibility is about maintaining a strong core identity—based on what you value most—but at the same time being able to adapt, evolve, and grow.

Define your sources of ruggedness—your core values—and then work on applying them flexibly in new ways as your life changes.

3. Diversify Your Sense of Identity

In short

Much like you want to diversify an investment portfolio to be more robust in the face of change and chaos in financial markets, you want to do the same with your identity.

The details

If you want to be really good at something, you have to be willing to fail. But the more you define yourself by any one activity—that one thing you want to be good at—the more fragile you become.

If that activity doesn't go well or changes, you lose a sense of who you are.

A better path is to develop "self-complexity," a term researchers use for having multiple components to your identity.

We all wear many hats. Examples include: employee, spouse, parent, athlete, artist, neighbor, entrepreneur, creative, baker, gardener, adventurer, and so on.

Take an inventory of your own identities. Are there any upon which you are over-reliant for meaning and self-worth?

It’s not that going “all in” on a certain endeavor is bad. It’s often necessary for big projects and life events. But you must ensure that you don’t leave the other parts of your identity completely behind.

Challenge yourself to integrate the various elements of your identity into a cohesive whole. This allows you to emphasize and deemphasize certain parts of your identity at different periods.

For example: there are times when I lean heavily into each of my main identities—father, husband, writer, coach, friend, athlete, and neighbor.

I’ve learned that keeping all of these identities strong ensures that when things don’t go well in one area of my life I can rely on other parts of my identity to pick me up, which helps me to stay grounded and navigate whatever challenge I am facing.

4. Respond, Don’t React

In Short

In the midst of distress or the unexpected, make decisions from a place of thoughtfulness and discernment, not rage (and eventual regret).

The details

Reactions tend to go like this: Something happens. You panic. Then you proceed.

Responses tend to go like this: Something happens. You pause. You process. You plan. Then you proceed.

Reacting is quick. Responding is slower.

Responding creates more space between an event and what you do (or don’t do) with it. In that space, you give immediate emotions some room to breathe. You take stock of what is happening, plan using the most evolved part of your brain, and then move forward accordingly.

Responding is harder than reacting. But, like most things that require effort, it also tends to be advantageous.

In a series of studies out of UCLA, researchers subjected participants to unplanned and distressing situations, such as giving impromptu speeches in front of strangers.

Half the participants were instructed to label their emotions. For instance, “I feel tightness in my chest,” “I feel angst in my throat,” or “I feel heat in my palms.” The other half were not instructed to do anything special.

The participants who felt and labeled their emotions, what researchers call affect labeling, had significantly less stress and felt more at ease during their speeches.

Next time something distressing comes up, pause, label it, then make a quick plan on how you’ll respond.

While it might seem that owning your insecurity would give it more power over you, it’s the opposite. When you identify your emotions—especially the negative ones—it lessens the likelihood that the emotion will control you. It switches you out of being fused with your emotion (reaction mode) and into a more thoughtful state (responsive mode).

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Michael here again. Thanks to Brad for sharing just a few of the great ideas in his book Master of Change. Get Master of Change here.

Have fun, don’t die, be a master of change.

-Michael

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